Stylist, designer, author, shop keeper and world traveler Sibella Court continues to inspire with her latest book Gypsy. This book is once again shot by her talented brother, photographer Chris Court, and is filled with gorgeous images styled by Sibella. I recently got the chance to interview Sibella about her life, design inspirations and travels.
My dad the strong, smart, capable of just about anything guy he has always been is at 91 struggling. He has had various minor illness's, falls, trips via ambulance to the ER and stays in rehab that were meant to be weeks to get stronger and back home, but have turned into months in which we are not so sure of the out come. When all of this started his mind was pretty sharp. This is the guy who taught himself web site design and quantum physics in his 80's. But this has taken it's toll and he has periods of confusion and being overwhelmed by the smallest things.
My dad has always been extremely strong willed and determined to live alone and for the most part that has worked until now. My husband and I had always assumed that when he couldn't live alone anymore he would live with us. Sadly it has become clear that the kind of care he would need is not possible and that our home has too many obstacles for him to be safe.
After getting him released from rehab this week and attempting to go back home it became pretty clear that this was not a safe option for him. After 24 hours in which we never left him alone, he went back to the hospital and into a rehab closer to us. I'm hoping this rehab can better evaluate and if possible help him and us to make the best choice about where he should live. More then anything he wants to go home and in his determination and confusion is convinced that it can happen. Where he lives 24 hour home care is not an option.
Getting old sucks, and in this country it's made even harder. I have a good friend going through similar issues with her parents who live in Canada and the differences are glaring. I have made multiple calls to various "experts" and agency's all who can offer little help or real information. My friend calls one person assigned to her father who can offer a variety of solutions and information. Also the options are more varied and and nicer. But we are here and have to navigate what we have. My dad worked hard but spent moat of his life as an artist and lived the way he wanted to which did not offer large monetary rewards. He provided the things his family needed and had enough money to live simply the way he wanted later on. He didn't end up with enough to cover the large costs many situations for the elderly require which makes this even harder.
So I his only child am left to navigate all of his care, advocate for his needs and try and find the best and safest situation for him. Luckily I have an amazing husband who deeply cares for my dad to help the[process but it still is overwhelming.
We are hoping that his desire to live at home is possible at least for a little bit longer but most likely it isn't. I'm hoping that he can come to this realization on his own ans accept it but he his fighting it and not clear enough to see the problems. He remembers when it was easy for him and thinks it can be again. The last thing I want is to be the one that forced him into a situation he doesn't want and watch him deteriorate into depression. But I have to accept the reality that it is a distinct possibility.
There is nothing better to wet the design appetite then a stop at the 1stdibs showroom at the New York Design Center. A quick run through and I leave refreshed and brimming with inspiration.
That and a burning desire to spend gobs of money redecorating.
So here are a few recent desires...
1960's tripod lamps
lacquered Jens Quistgaard trays for Dansk.
Edward J. Wormley woven front cabinet.
Paul McCobb tile table.
What struck me most about Charleston was the incredible textures everywhere. As a stylist I look for inspiration everywhere and you never know how I will incorporate it into my work. Case in point is this room at the Aiken-Rhett House Museum. Check out those amazing colors and textures in the wall. I am immediately drawn to the decay of this once glamorous room. So often when visiting historic house museums they have been restored, but in Charleston more then a few were left how they were found by the curators other then keeping them from decaying further. So the true sense of the house was kept, additions and touches added over the years remain in place. Personally I much prefer this approach.
This piece is in answer to the art director I was working with recently who exclaimed "your house must be absolutely beautiful" and as a contrast to the perfectly styled shot's in the Bright Bazaar book of my last home. No I don't live in absolute perfection, even when not living amongst construction. We have 2 teenage daughters, a dog and cat and a busy life. Most of the time there are books, papers, backpacks and often props being moved in and out between jobs - in other words the normal chaos of life.
I'm often asked where do I find all the cool stuff I bring to shoots. Any stylist has multiple sources they call on depending on the needs of the shoot. An important part of my job is the relationships I have with the makers and shops I frequent. Another important source are prop shops. There are a number of them all with different stylistic viewpoints.